Monday, June 11, 2012

A love like that...[II]

She was such a goon growing up. Beat many a boys in her school corridor. Once, she even slapped a senior on the school-bus back home [In her defense, he was sitting in HER seat!] She loved to argue and considered herself quite good at verbal duels. 

Times changed. She didn't. Soon she was in college. Her long tresses cut short. Boy-cut was what they called it. Collared half-sleeved shirts and a ragged pair of jeans. And the boy-cut. Almost a boy, you see. Strangely enough, she now made great friends with the guys. They no longer feared her. She was one of them. She laughed at their jokes about other girls and even added her own witty one-liners. They came to her on days of journal submission. They rallied around campaigning for her during college elections. and as weird as it may sound - they cared for her - like a buddy, in a brotherly sort of way - the girl, with the boy-cut.

Times changed again [how irritating is that!] And yet again, she didn't. There she was working in the corporate world. Cut-throat competition. Who knew being a bully at school would come to so much use later in life! She loved the aggression. The dominant streak that gets passed off as leadership qualities. And once again she became the 'man on the team'. Gym buddy. Smoke buddy. Booze buddy. They ranted about their girlfriends, she listened. They raved about their trophy wives and she listened. She smiled. She understood - something that always surprised the guys.

Times changed quickly thereafter. Her long tresses grew back. Her dark eyes shone when she laughed. She was suddenly noticeable. Second and third glances [and accompanied male attention] became a part of her life. A girl friend gifted a kaajal pencil and insisted she try on some. That day she became aware of the magic of kohl eyes. People seemed nicer, friendlier and worse, no one wanted to fight with her any more. No more verbal duels. No intelligent [or even lame] arguments.

And one day, she met him. He was smart and funny. Sensible with questionable sensitivity. But there was a spark between the two. He wasn't at his best behaviour with her. He didn't think twice before saying things on his mind. He didn't even offer her the last piece of the pastry..instead eyed hers hungrily. He didn't open doors or pull chairs for her. And he never, ever carried her laptop that she chugged around everywhere. He just walked beside hers, hands in pocket. Sometimes slowing down a step or two to match her speed. He didn't ask her how the day went by. He probably read it on her face. And he always, always started the conversation with the lamest of his jokes.

Times changed yet again. Thankfully, they both didn't. They still walk side by side, carrying their own baggage. No favours on each other. And yet they know when the other is tired. He still doesn't treat her 'like a lady'. But she knows he is the one coz he treats her the way she always wanted to be treated - a girl with a boy-cut.

A love like that [I] here

5 comments:

  1. Girls always fall for the imperfect guys...

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  2. @ mgeek - Imperfection makes life interesting!

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  3. @mgeek - That is because there are no perfect ones to fall for :)

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  4. More to the point, this is an example of how, even if you live naturally and not put yourself under pressure to confirm, you can eventually find your place in life - at work, among friends and in love :)

    Not exactly relevant to the post, but the talk about imperfection reminds me of this nice post from Thought Catalog:
    The Beauty Of Imperfection
    It rambles at first, but then builds up to a great ending :)

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  5. @mgeek & Ashwin - The point I was trying to make is similar to Ashwin's. Our ideas of beauty, perfection are all based on perception. Somebody's perception. Who is to say that a dove is more beautiful than an eagle? Conformity to the ridiculously rigid ideas that are well entrenched in our society and culture has been/will remain cause of much human misery. Wars have been fought and many a mens' lives and/or self worth have been destroyed by this very notion of conformity. Sorry if I sound a bit too dramatic....its just one of those things I feel strongly about. Wouldn't it be wonderful, if you could just be...no judgements, no pressure to fit into someone else's definition of perfection? And what a liberated relationship would that be!! :-)

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